I have always liked my hair. In grade school, every morning my mom would comb my hair with some kind of green goop in a jar that she would dip the comb into. I'm not sure what it was called, but it would dry into a solid hard shell. With a few quick moves my mom would mold my hair into a big pompadour that would stand up to a gale force wind, and not a hair would move at least until lunch time. Later in life I wanted to see just how long my hair would grow, but after a few years I realized what a pain in the ass long hair was, and I reverted to the short well groomed look.
After I was diagnosed with the cancer, and before treatment started, the doctor warned me that I would lose my hair during chemo-therapy. Even with this forewarning, it was still very disturbing, a few weeks into it, to be standing in the shower watching gobs of my hair coming out and flowing down the drain. I was finding hair in my bed, I was finding hair everywhere. If you didn't know any better you'd think I had a big old German Sheppard dog in the house. My solution to this was to shave everything off, everything. I looked weird, but at least I didn't have to deal with the hair thing until the chemo treatments were done. So it was with great relief when twelve weeks of chemo-therapy was finished, and I could get off the meds and slowly my hair started to come back. It came in very curly at first and stayed that way for about a year. Curly or straight, I will tell you one thing, I'd rather be bald than not be alive. Thanks to the doctors, and my friends and family, here I am twenty years later, fat and sassy, totally cancer free, and wearing my hair shorter than ever.
"Losing your hair during treatment" is the ONLY thing they warn you about. I actually enjoyed that part & maybe that sounds weird, but being female going bald was something I would never have thought of doing on my own. It was an interesting experience just to see how other people reacted. "No I didn't shave it for political reasons." The pain, nausea & dizzy stuff they neglected to mention, but with today's meds it wasn't too awful. I cringe when I think of what you went through 20 yrs. ago before they had fine tuned side effect relief. You had to be some tough stuff to go through all that---and drive back home again!!!
ReplyDeleteI remember shaving your head for you too. In the past 25 years I shaved both my best friends heads because of cancer. I think I've got a track record going. Now if my next best friend gets cancer and I have to shave their head I think that would be more than a coincident.
ReplyDeleteThe sad news is that not everyone survives. As I write this my cousin Lauren is in hospice care for cancer.
ReplyDeleteLove you Alan.
ReplyDeleteand one of my high school classmates died 2 weeks ago after battling sarcoma. He was 28.
ReplyDeleteAnother reason to quit smoking before it's too late.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure glad we've had the additional 20 years to be friends and look forward to 30 or 40 more. I feel great and have no plans on leaving any time soon.
ReplyDeleteAlan: Be glad you still have a full head of hair. Some of us haven't been as fortunate.
ReplyDeleteAll the more reason that we should be kind and helpful to others as we never know when our time may come.
ReplyDeleteRIP: Heath Ledger
It was called DIPPITTY-DOO...green goop in a jar!
ReplyDeleteNice blog!